Another expensive day

[christopher575]

I was on Spencer Island this morning for my walk and having an ok time. I wasn't feeling 100% this morning and a Facebook exchange from yesterday was bothering me. A friend posted a picture of the gravy from her breakfast because the gravy from breakfast the last time we all went out was pretty disappointing. Some dude she knows posted a comment saying she shouldn't eat it, and I really hate when people police what others eat. It's tacky as hell. So I asked why her food was being policed and she replied that she's a fat pig and wants to lose weight, makes bad decisions, complains about them, and needs a kick in the pants from her healthy friends. I asked, if she considers herself a fat pig, what does that make me? She said healthy, intelligent, handsome, and fun, and I replied that I'm considerably fatter than she is, so if she calls herself a fat pig, she's calling me one too.

The fact that we don't exist in a vacuum is a concept I occasionally try to convey to people when they make self-deprecating comments. It's impossible to speak ill of yourself without also insulting people who look like you. And if you make fun of a celebrity for gaining weight, you're also insulting all your friends who are fat. It should be obvious, but people are extremely rude when it comes to weight. Always complaining about wanting to lose five pounds to people who outweigh you by 100? It generally comes across as hinting rather than your own concern.

Anyway the whole thing just bums me out. I hate hearing people hate themselves, and I've heard it from that friend quite a lot. So I was taking pictures of pretty flowers and stuff, and after I made a comment on an unrelated post on Facebook, my phone froze, then tried to reboot and couldn't, then died. So I went back to the car, came home, and showered, then Garrett and I went to breakfast. The AT&T store doesn't open until 11am on Sunday, so we certainly didn't have to hurry.



Since I couldn't turn my phone back on, I couldn't upload my photos to flickr. Thankfully I'd already sent a lot to Instagram and was able to share those to flickr.






The river was the lowest I've ever seen it. That boat that's partially submerged was completely out of the water!



Here's a photo I was able to save from Snapchat. Pretty wild to see so little water.



And I had to draw my map manually. I'm not sure if I got it exactly right on the Northern part, and the time is an estimate.


4.42 miles in 1:30, 9,759 steps

I was in such a hurry to get a new phone that I didn't do any research. I figured since I had the LG G4, I may as well go ahead and grab the G5. Unfortunately, nobody is currently making a charging case for it, and I really loved my charging case. The company that made it, Mophie, decided to quit making them for LG devices for some reason. The G5 has a cool camera enhancement attachment that adds some battery life, so I've ordered that. And there's only one case available for the phone while it's got that on it, so it's on its way. From South Korea.

Comments

[faeriefiles.livejournal.com]

Seeing others speak of themselves in negative ways bothers me too. I don't think they mean it as a hint though. I think most people who carry around self hate are also of the type who live in a very small emotional self-bubble. They seem to me as if they seldom think of others when in self-hate mode unless they're comparing how much worse they are than the other person. It's sad but it also explains why your friend would hate on herself for the weight she carries and encourage others to also verbally abuse her for it; while at the same time not even realizing you are also her size.

[kazzy-cee.livejournal.com]

I think people are just insensitive sometimes - especially on Facebook where you can post something and forget who might be reading. I'm sorry you were bothered by it.

Pretty flowers!

How old was your last phone? If you've got a new one I'm sure it won't be long until there are lots of cases to choose from.

[christopher575.livejournal.com]

The G5 has been available since February, so I'm surprised there's not more stuff for it.

Not sure exactly how long I had the G4. A year and a half? It was a cool phone and at first I was a little bummed about having to switch, but the new one's so zippy and cool, I'm getting over it. :)

As far at the Facebook thing goes, I mostly just wish I would have waited to talk to her about it in person. I stand by everything I said, I just wish I said it elsewhere.

[boomstick.livejournal.com]

People don't see themselves the same way they see other people. I see women who outweigh me by thirty, fifty, eighty pounds and I think they look so beautiful, elegant, flawless, perfect. Then I look at myself and I think I look absolutely disgusting.

[christopher575.livejournal.com]

I hope that can change for you. :(

[boomstick.livejournal.com]

Some days are better than others. I'm getting over being sick and not moving much for a week so I just feel thptpthththh

[suxdonut.livejournal.com]

oh good for you for commenting on it. I always silently listen as my friends insult themselves (and feel insulted in turn, as I too have whatever they are complaining about and often more so) and then usually resent the person after. I am working hard on saying something out loud but I get so tongue tied (or keyboard tied) about speaking my mind when I'm feeling belittled. Not to mention I usually think the person complaining looks lovely, but after saying so once or twice I'm not about to turn their self-shaming into my prompt to compliment. Anyways I totally hear you on that and I'm very impressed you spoke out. I am going to try to do so in the future.