One very stupid thing from last night

[christopher575]

There is a very bitter guy named Mike who is usually at karaoke. He's the type that will ask you out and guilt trip you for the rest of your life if you tell him no thanks, which is complete bullshit in my case because he specifically said, "Am I your type at all? Please be honest, I won't be mad." Yeah, he's not my type at all, because he sucks all the joy out of the room every time he's around.

He's always just been kind of annoying but last night he took it too far. He came up to me and asked if I was responsible for all the "horrible girl singers who were there tonight." I told him I knew a very large group of cool girls and I was personally glad to have them there. He gave me a very tired spiel about how it's supposedly so much more fun without any women around, which I told him was ridiculous. I had to walk away when he said, "I remember when gay bars were gay."

I can kind of understand when an ignorant straight person needs to have gay bars explained to them. They really don't get that our lives would literally be in danger if we went to Tiki Bob's and started introducing ourselves to the men there. Society just isn't that integrated yet, and even if it were, we'd still want bars where the majority of the men are gay so we wouldn't waste our time barking up the wrong trees.

However, gay bars are not supposed to be exclusively gay. I would argue that women are out of place somewhere like the Eagle late on a busy night where penises are flopping about, but The Cuff? On a fucking Thursday? Give me a break. If you were to ask everyone at the bar, it's actually him who most people would say they wished would go home, not the girls.

Yeah, gay bars were "really gay" back when people snuck into them and would never admit having been there the next day. You know who doesn't belong? Anyone who isn't comfortable being there and anyone who treats anyone else disrespectfully. But that's true anywhere.

I'm glad alexjon was with me when he came up to announce his disapproval, because I'm afraid people might not believe me because it's so fucking stupid.

Misogyny aside, karaoke nights are supposed to be fun. His digs about the "awful singers" mean nothing to me. If he thinks only good singers should be on stage, he's missing the point. 

Fuck him, and fuck that. I love my fabulous wimmins and I love anyone who is there to have fun. I wish he'd learn how.

Comments

[jedi-iwakura.livejournal.com]

♥♥♥♥♥ ilu.

I probably would have said something that would have gotten me in trouble were I there.

[nicolemarieh.livejournal.com]

on a positive note, a tall very pretty gay black man named jesse (mardi said "was that Seal?") came up to me at one point to tell me what a good job jimmy, christina and i did performing Love Game. He was very sweet and enthusiastic, telling me how much he loved it and how great we were and how he "had him rocking, had the whole place rocking!" he was just a doll and shook my hand and was like i just wanted to tell you how much i liked it!

super kind and he obviously wasnt bothered by our presence or he wouldnt have gone out of our way to say how nice it was. =)

[christopher575.livejournal.com]

Luckily Mike is definitely in the minority. And he can ram it.

[frogger414.livejournal.com]

THIS. I love telling others about how I loved their performance and getting propz on mine. It's supposed to be about having fun, regardless of talent sheesh

[nicolemarieh.livejournal.com]

he was looking around for you and jimmy to tell you guys too, but you both had disappeared at that point. (HMHMHM? ;) ) sorry i forgot to tell you before you left! i told jimmy though :D

[frogger414.livejournal.com]

I left soon after the onstage performance because I had to go home to go to bed :(

[nicolemarieh.livejournal.com]

yah, most people did! you didnt really miss anything, we pretty much all cleared out after that.

[christopher575.livejournal.com]

We should make him a t-shirt that says I HATE WOMEN AND PEOPLE HAVING FUN.

[christopher575.livejournal.com]

"MIKE" AND "LIKE" RHYME BUT ARE OPPOSITES

[christopher575.livejournal.com]

MIKE: THE VINEGAR IN THE FLY TRAPPING DEVICE IN WHICH THE HONEY SHOULD GO

[chrisinseattle.livejournal.com]

do i know this guy..

[christopher575.livejournal.com]

Not sure. He's there a lot but it's been a long time since I've seen you there.

[badrobot68.livejournal.com]

I'm sure you've seen him. He is almost always there.

I love your icon! I didn't know you were growing your hair out.

[chrisinseattle.livejournal.com]

Im surprised no one got a pic of him to post.. grin. and yes my locks of love.. are amazing.. thank you

[badrobot68.livejournal.com]

Yeah I was going to post something about this too, even though I did not witness his stupidity first hand.

For one thing, the bar was still about 95% gay men.

Secondly, OUR WOMEN ARE SO MUCH FUN! I would rather be around them than a bunch of bitter bitchy gays like him.

Now I could see his point if there was some huge bridal shower going on, or something like that. But when the gays bring their women friends, it's always fun!

[moonrock.livejournal.com]

wow. just wow.

dear mike, remove stick from ass.

... or maybe its there cause noone will stick anything else in it?

=P

[cmorley.livejournal.com]

"I love anyone who is there to have fun. I wish he'd learn how"

Unfortunately, not having fun might be what he does for fun. That's messed up, but that seems to be the way some people are.

[sgtred.livejournal.com]

Aren't there emo/goth clubs for these types?

[guaparella.livejournal.com]

I love you so much right now.

[frogger414.livejournal.com]

And this is why you are my friend. I know I suck as a singer but as the Karaokee host says "We are here to have fun!" and that's what it is all about. I go to gay bars for many reasons 1) my friends 2) I love the gays like whoa and 3) I want to have fun. Aside from the Sloop in Ballard, I love going out to Gay bars the most because they know how to party, socialize and be accepting of everyone regardless of their sexuality, gender, body type, etc. So fuck him, I hope my horrible rick rolling gave him nightmares!!

[notlostonme.livejournal.com]

I think it was so poetic that the gay bouncer was whining about "that gay man's" drama driving him to drink after work.

A+++
Also that guy can totally suck my dick.

[panikmanik.livejournal.com]

wtf!!

not cool.


there's so many girls that go to karaoke when i've been there.. gay AND straight.. hell I even invite girls from work!


what a big jerk face

[paterson-si.livejournal.com]

Girls also come to gay bars here and it's FUN.

[thisiserika.livejournal.com]

wow, if i had been there i would have been pissed. if you want gay bars to be exclusively gay, then you're being no better than the guys at places like Tiki Bob's that would kick your ass for being there.

he can suck a fat one. good thing we all had a killer time anyway.

[mika-says.livejournal.com]

I wish I could come to karaoke night with you guys - I could totally show him what a terrible singer is all about!!!

[wring.livejournal.com]

srsly. lj convention at the karaoke bar!

[anunnakigirl.livejournal.com]

I already did, HA!

I am horrible, but I don't give a rats ass. I always have so much fun

[badrobot68.livejournal.com]

You always rock, baby!

[anunnakigirl.livejournal.com]

Thanks love!

[wring.livejournal.com]

I'm glad to read your perspective on this. Naturally it pisses me off when I see bachelorette parties in gay bars but I realized it's just my general disdain of bachelorette parties. they could be doing it at PF Chang's and I'd STILL be annoyed at them. I always wonder if the gays think the wimmins are "taking over" their turf.

I am so jealous of your hoppin karaoke scene. I need some capital to start my own karaoke club :))

[electriclime.livejournal.com]

Oh wow. I didn't even know this was happening. I hope you point him out to me next time I'm there.

Why? because I"m a straight girl AND I AM TOTALLY INVADING THE CUFF AGAIN

[anunnakigirl.livejournal.com]

THIS

[sgtred.livejournal.com]

But... but... what about gay females? :D

[christopher575.livejournal.com]

All twelve of them are at the Wildrose.

[chunkems.livejournal.com]

*shudder*

[chunkems.livejournal.com]

how did he know your girlfriends were straight?? people assume i am straight all the time....and when i am elbow deep in a, ok. nevermind. i am queer as a three dollar bill so he clowned himself of a deeper level there.

[christopher575.livejournal.com]

He didn't really say anything about them being straight, he just didn't like having women in "his" bar.

[chunkems.livejournal.com]

best my fist would fit just as far up his ass as the next dude. JUST SAYIN'

[tbass.livejournal.com]

Mike Painter by chance? The big guy with the flat top?

Yeah, he's pretty much an asshole and nobody really likes him.

He came up to me a few weeks ago and was like, "So.. am I finally old enough to have sex with you?" (i tend to like older guys."

It was very awkward.

Also, the Cuff on a FRIDAY is mostly composed of straight girls and twinks.. so it's hardly a leather mecca and hardly passes for a gay bar half the time anymore.

[christopher575.livejournal.com]

I don't know his last name but the description fits.

[tbass.livejournal.com]

He's a social pariah. People only barely tolerate him because they're too nice to say anything.

I'm sure the bartenders had no complaints about getting a large number of drink orders they normally wouldn't get on a thursday either. And, Jonathan loves having plenty of singers. So, it's really only Mike that cares. And, nobody cares about Mike.. so that works out.

[shirtlifterbear.livejournal.com]

No wonder he glares at me every single time I see him!

[brianmars.livejournal.com]

oh noes. we can never hang out. you have to go your bar and I have to go to mine.